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Wendy's avatar

Yes, this. Here I am with my husband, finally getting a night to ourselves with just us in the bed for the first time in months. He has a brain injury, caused by a drunk driver and ACC have pretended to do all they can for him. Some days he can have an afternoon nap to recharge while continuing with chronic fatigue and only half a body that works. I have ADHD, and while I feel the least 'disabled' of our family, I haven't slept well in 9 years. Our 9 year old autistic daughter called me in tears a few hours ago saying that she hates it at her grandparents house, and she needs to come home. This is the first night we have had to ourselves in months. I still had to read her stories to sleep while on a video call. We get 14 days respite per year. My parents can take her for nights, but for the past year it's been crying to sleep while I help her to get to sleep over the phone. None of us are eligible for disability allowance, even though we work a total of 36 hours a week between us. With one of us needing to physically be with our daughter at all times (apart from the relief we get by going to work when she actually attends school), we get no time to ourselves, let alone together. Everything we do to support us, we do with our own funds. No chance at public system for

diagnoses, that all had to be done privately. We are too good at masking to make the fuss needed to be seen through the public system. I would absoloutley love to be able to have the energy to take care of my house the lawns, the laundry, my vegetable garden, the relationship with my husband, my own physical health, friendships, time with my family. 100% of our combined efforts are funneled into ensuring our daughter is well supported, and there's no energy left for us as any more. All I am offered is parenting classes. I know how to parent my autistic daughter, I've been doing a damn good job of it so far. Just a little help from the government to ensure I stay able to continue to provide for my family is all I'm asking.

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Rob Nelson's avatar

Unfortunately, this is what the country is stuck with when run by a Coalition of Chaos who are ideologically driven by the almighty dollar at the cost of caring for those in our society who need and deserve more of a helping hand to live the best lives they have a right to. They can fiddle the criteria and the budgets as much as they like. but shrinking the waiting lists or the money supply doesn't shrink the number of people who have a right to exist, and to be the best they can be. Kia kaha and keep fighting the good fight - these Dollar Worshippers won't be in charge forever.

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